My Three Year Crush

I believe everyone has had a crush at some point, but I wont be far from the truth if I say I haven't really crushed on anyone. The reason is that fortunately, every guy I may have had a crush on always has a crush on me too, hence I never have to go through the pain and torture of fantasizing over him and hoping that one day he will notice me and eventually talk to me. So this is what happens; I spot a guy and I'm like "aww he's so cute" or I just keep stealing glances at him, before I say little mermaid, he already walks up to me and starts a conversation and the next thing, we exchange numbers, then we become friends, he reveals to me that he has a crush on me (of course I don't tell him I have a crush on him too), we talk a lot during the period and each time I see him or talk to him, I get huge butterflies in my stomach. Anyways the usual thing is that after a while the "butterflies in my stomach" disappear and the crush fizzles away. This is always the case, except when I have an "unrealistic" crush (celebrity crush).

Note, that I have grouped my crushes into two: my "unrealistic" crushes and my "realistic" crushes. The unrealistic crush is the kind of crush I have on Ryan Gosling, Jake Gyllenhaal, Russel Brand (my celebrity crushes) ;). They are unrealistic because I may never ever get to see them but I just enjoy fantasizing over them (you know Russel Brand has this funny accent and nonchalant attitude which I really like) shikena! The realistic crush on the other hand is the crush I have on the regular guy that I can see and is likely to notice me and eventually admit that he has a crush on me too. However, I once had this "realistic" crush. Let's call him my "stubborn crush" because the butterflies just won't fizzle away. Apparently we had been in the same gathering (may be school, church, neighbourhood, wherever it was...I'm not spilling :p)  since 1999, but I didn't spot him until 2007/ 2008 or there about and gosh he is such a good eye candy. Anyways this crush lasted for three years or a little more than three years. For the whole time I saw him during the period, I always had the usual butterfly feeling. I just wanted to know that he equally had a crush on me... at least that was good enough for me, we didn't even have to get close afterwards. But not noticing me was totally unbearable. So you can imagine how I felt when a mutual friend revealed to me one sunday after church sometime last year  that my "stubborn crush" told him that he had a crush on me...yaaay!!! FINALLY!!! I didn't even know that he knew I existed (you know... that feeling you have when your crush has a crush on u) :D. Anyways this time I decided to act fast, so I stretched out my hand of friendship and we kinda became friends yeah...but everything still remained the same :( I was a bit disappointed though, you know... I thought stuff would happen between us as usual. Well nothing changed except that we are now friends of some sort. So I'm suspecting one of two things happened...its either my friend lied about my "stubborn crush" saying he was crushing on me, or my stubborn crush actually did have a crush on me, but the crush fizzled away along the line...well whatever it is/was, I choose to go with the second option..LOL.

I'm used to guys I crush on, crushing on me in return, since my "stubborn crush" wouldn't crush on me, I made up my mind to brush off the crush. It took some weeks though but it wasn't very difficult to get over him because I haven't seen him in a while (about 4 months) and yes I'm so over my stubborn crush now *dancing alanta*. But because I'm over him now, doesn't mean that I have totally forgotten about him. So in the event that he reveals that he had or still has a crush on me, then I'll know where to take it from there, but until then I remain so over him :)

I Love what Nigeria Can Become (Part 2)

I remember when my family moved to Abuja in 1999, one of the yardsticks my parents used to get the house we moved into was that the house already had a bore hole because there was no water in the area at the time.

Back in the university, I never experienced water run from the tap in my house and the houses of almost every other person except those who had a borehole in their various houses. Everyday until I graduated, I bought water from "mai ruwa" and at night I virtually always had a headache from the noise from the many generator sets of all my neighbours (mine inclusive). However I have no plans to reside anywhere else except my country Nigeria now or anytime in the future. On the other hand I wouldn't judge or condemn any Nigerian who has chosen to go and seek greener pastures outside Nigeria, or those who have gotten so used to the comforts of developed countries and have decided not to come back home.

Let's call a spade a spade and not an agricultural instrument, there is corruption in this country which has eaten deep into the fibre of our society and it has turned out to be the major cause of most of our problems. Corruption is inevitable in every society but then I believe that everybody is likely to be porous as long as the system permits it and apparently the Nigerian system has permitted it. There is no water, electricity is now a luxury, fuel scarcity despite the fact that we are an oil producing nation. There are glitches in the education and health sectors, securing a job no longer depends on your capabilities or credentials, but on who your father is or who you know. There are no consequences for disobeying the law: recently I read in one of the newspapers that the son of a serving minister hit a boy while driving under the influence and the victim died. The family of the boy who was hit said that they have left the case in the hands of God because they know that they will not win a case against a serving minister. The judicial system and law enforcement agencies are not making things any easier.

I had a lecturer who used to tell us of how good the country was when he was growing up and I remember that he once said we (the younger generation) should pray that we never have to tell our children that our days were better than their days. We know that Nigeria isn't what we want it to be yet, Rome wasn't built in a day. Developed countries didn't happen by magic, they worked real hard for many years. they fought wars, they toiled, they went through many revolutions and struggles to make their countries what they are today. If we all choose to run away, this country wouldn't move forward. Being the optimist that I am, I believe there is hope. There isn't much anyone can do single handedly as an individual and that is why I urge Nigerians not to run away, but to come together and collectively we can make a difference.

The just concluded 2011 elections have proven that Nigeria is about to experience a revolution. Nigeria is fast moving from the "dominant" party system it was practicing to the multi party system it was supposed to be practicing. In the past we had leaders imposed on us during the military regime, now we have the pleasure of selecting our leaders ourselves through a democratic process.

This may sound cliche, but Nigeria will eventually become what we wish for it to be. Definitely not today, tomorrow or even in 20years to come, but hopefully the future of our unborn children will be secure here in Nigeria and they wouldn't have to wish their country was like America, because their country will actually be  like America and even better. Got to go now...peace out!

I Love what Nigeria Can Become (Part 1)

Last week my older sister who resides in the U.K came to Nigeria for a friend's wedding. About a week before she came to Nigeria, she called me to ask if we had a working internet connection at home and of course I quickly replied in the affirmative. Why wouldn't I? I have a starcomms modem which in my opinion is relatively fast, and if for some reasons it decided not to function properly when my sister was around, we have a back up multi-links modem as well. So I was sure she wasn't going to have any problems getting connected to the internet when she was around, thus I assured her that everything was set. I even teased her about looking down on my beloved country. What my sister didn't tell me was that she was coming with her work laptop which had already been customized by the company she works for, and so it wouldn't accept installations from any external source (I guess she didn't think it was necessary).

My sister eventually got to Nigeria and sadly she couldn't make use of either of the modems because her computer wouldn't accept the installations. The next day she went with my mum to my mum's office hoping she would be able to make use of the "wireless" connection there. On getting there, it was discovered that they didn't exactly have a wireless connection there and for this reason her computer didn't respond to the connection. Anyways we started our journey in search of internet connection that would be able to work with her laptop. Finally she was able to get a wireless connection, but then the network was fluctuating. At last she found a working connection, by then she had missed her deadline. She found it difficult to believe that in this age and time, a wireless connection will be a big deal in any part of the world.

My furious sister began ranting and raving about how messed up Nigeria is, she said she had never experienced any hardship getting internet connection on her laptop anywhere in the U.K. She further complained of how the generator was practically on 24 hours everyday during the period she was around because there was barely NEPA/ PHCN light. I need not forget to add that she once followed us to queue up for fuel during the fuel scarcity when she came over last week. Finally she concluded that she was never coming to settle down permanently in Nigeria.

Having been to the U.K myself, I totally understand my sister's fury. Coming from a country where the system works more often than not, it is not very easy to live in a country like ours where nothing works. For example I was in London between December 2010 and January 2011 during the period I totally forgot that there was anything like power shortage. I watched youtube videos at a stretch like I was watching a dvd unlike back in Nigeria where a 3 minute video will be buffering for as long as 10-15 minutes or even more. I knew I was safe on a zebra crossing even when a car was approaching in the distance because contrary to what I am used to in Nigeria, once on the zebra crossing, a pedestrian has right of way. There was water gushing out from the tap all the while I was  there even though my sister didn't have a bore hole in her house. In fairness to the British people, I was enjoying the comforts of their society plus I was having a good time with my family.  Nevertheless I wanted to come back to Nigeria. Funny enough the morning I returned to Nigeria there was no electricity at home, however I was very happy to be back home. We may not have our acts together as a nation, but we definitely have a few things going on for us and I guess that's what I was running back to.

22 FACTS ABOUT ME

1. I have a very strong personality.

2. I love myself: therefore I enjoy my own company best.

3. I have a morbid fear of dogs.

4. I have a penchant for perfumes and sweet scents.

5. I have the following bad habits:

 *I find it tasking to keep in touch with people (but on a serious note, I love you all *big hug*)

 *I unintentionally do not have any respect for time

 *I'm a "procastinator".

6. I'm slow to anger but not swift to forgive (I didn't say I don't forgive at all).

7. I do not enjoy any form of laundry, notwithstanding I do not appreciate shabby and untidy dressing.

8. Contrary to people's perception of me, I'm a friendly person.

9. If you want me to do something, do not yell at me or threaten me.

10.I have the talent of laughing: I laugh all the time even when there is nothing funny to laugh at. With no intention to rain on anybody's parade, if I always laugh at whatever you say, don't think you are very funny, I'm prolly just being me.

11.I'm a whiz at literature, but give me a scientific equation to solve and I'm like bambi lost in midtown Manhattan.

12.I'm no mediocre.

13.I'm very optimistic.

14.I function best when I'm under pressure.

15.I used to be an ardent fan of celebrity gossip...I'm still in the game though.

16.I do not appreciate people especially the male folk asking for my blackberry pin instead of my phone number.

17.I'm not particular about anything such as favourite food, colour, car, drink, water and blah blah.

18.I LOVE my family...they are a big part of me because nobody looks after family like family.

19.The real me is a very nice girl with a very good heart, however, I can be mean...more like cantankerous.

20.I have always been very ambitious: when i was younger, I hoped to be president in the future...now I'm older, I hope to be the Chief Justice of Nigeria. I'll take whichever comes first in due time. If Goodluck Jonathan can do it, I can do it ;).

21.For me, leaving my house without a wristwatch and a bracelet/ bangles is equivalent to going out without clothes.

22.I'm allergic to pepper, I have a severe allergy to cooked onions, I do not eat beans, semovita, wheat, couscous and gbegiri soup. I'm not a fan of fufu, eba, boiled yam and potato. Apart from those mentioned I guess almost every other meal goes for me. Apparently I'm not a foodie person.

NEWSFLASH

So this is my blog and I'm thinking, what am I supposed to start with? should I concentrate on boring you to death or maybe I'll make sure you are so irritated you don't come back here to read what crap I am thinking. But if you do get scared and run away, you might never know what I think of you and how that affects the price of crayfish in the market. So I think I'll just use this first post to say welcome to my blog and make sure you bookmark it because you may never know... this blog can SAVE YOUR LIFE. As you will find it, I do not do amebo... No I don't :| but yes I give inside scoop :D... scoops that can tell you where the next oil well is, or where Osama is hiding in your house, or how you can get your name on the next  royal wedding guest list in...erm...let's say the year 2040... You are welcome to my blog, I hope our love grows stronger henceforth.